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Thursday, December 01, 2022
Do you ever find that the closest people to you are the ones who discourage you the most from growing and doing what you believe you’re called and created to do?
Do you find yourself surrounded by naysayers or toxic people who don’t believe that you can achieve your dreams?
It’s a common experience among many entrepreneurs. I’ve experienced it myself.
But I’ve also found freedom from the toxic people in my life while surrounding myself with people who believe in and support the pursual of my dreams.
In this article, I will be sharing with you simple steps on how you can too.
If you want to change your future for the better, accelerate your growth in life and business, and feel completely unrestricted in pursuing what God has called you to do, then keep reading.
Here's the first step to changing your future. I want you to examine your friends, and I want you to consider who you spend the most time with.
Who influences you the most? Who do you listen to often? How are they influencing your life for better or for worse? How are they contributing to your life? You have to examine the people you spend the most time with and listen to. As you do this, you may come to a difficult realization that some people are probably hindering you from being all you can be for Christ.
The first action that you will want to do is what I call "Disassociation." I know it's not easy, but it's a crucial step to having the freedom to be, do, and have what God has called you to.
2 Corinthians 6:17 puts it this way:
"Wherefore come out from among them, and be separate saith the Lord, touch not the unclean thing and I will receive you."
There are some people in your life you are better to just disassociate from.
I had influences in my life that were not only limiting but also toxic and unhealthy. They were like a bucket of crabs. I realized that I had to disassociate with some people.
Crabs in a bucket can't escape because they pull each other down.
Sometimes you have to physically move away from people. I've relocated to different states recognizing that there are some people with whom it's best to disassociate.
We have the example of the story of Abraham in Hebrews 11:8:
"By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whither he went."
Abraham had to physically remove himself from the environment he was in so that he could live God's calling for his life.
Here is an example: I was attending the government indoctrination camps (you know, the miseducation misdirectional system?) sitting in English class during my senior year of high school. The teacher said, "Raise your hand if you are planning on going to college."
I was literally the only person in the room who didn't have their hand raised.
The teacher called me out saying, "What? Enoch, you're not going to college?” I answered, "No, I don't plan on it. What I'm doing doesn't require a college degree." I knew I was going to be an evangelist, an entrepreneur. I was going to serve God. He’ll be my employer, and He doesn't require a degree.
My peers expressed concern, "What? You’re gonna throw away your life! You're gonna be a bum on the side of the street! Don't do this. You're gonna waste your life away!"
The teacher proceeded to take 20 minutes out of the 50-minute class (talking to one person in front of all my classmates) to give me a lecture on why college is essential to success, why everybody needs to go to college, and how I'm going to throw away my life if I don't.
My sister (who went on to get a nursing degree and become a nurse) pulled me aside to take me out for lunch one day. She begged me not to throw away my life, and told me how this was going to be a big mistake. She said, "Go to school," "Do something with your life," and "Don't do this."
Honestly, one of the best educational decisions of my life was to drop out of high school. One of the greatest regrets of my educational experience was that I didn't drop out of high school sooner. Because when I got out of the government indoctrination camps, AKA child prisons, my education skyrocketed. My understanding of the Word of God tremendously developed. I started learning practical, relevant, just-in-time information for my calling, not the useless, just-in-case information I was learning at school which I'm never going to use.
I wish I dropped out of high school (government indoctrination camp/child prison) sooner.
I was in honors chemistry, honors mathematics, and AP anatomy and physiology. I was taking some great classes, but I knew that this was not the way. I could learn so much better through self-education than through all this regurgitation and rote memorization, just to pass a test and then forget it all when it's over.
We have to realize that sometimes we’ve got to disassociate. That was my experience, and by God's grace, He's provided for me all the way through.
And no, I'm not a bum on the side of the street.
Some people buckle under the pressure. Some people have different beliefs than me about the government indoctrination camps, and that's fine. You can be you, I can be me, and we can be we.
Proverbs 20:19 has some very much hidden and often avoided counsel. It says:
“He that tilleth his land shall have plenty of bread: but he that followeth after vain persons shall have poverty enough.”
The Bible has a lot of warnings against poverty and the perils of poverty, which is interesting. When was the last time you heard a sermon talking about the Biblical warnings against poverty? King Solomon the preacher warned against the dangers and the hardships of poverty. It's all throughout the scriptures.
Yes, I understand that there are warnings against wealth. There are certainly important counsels regarding financial abundance, but there are far more warnings against practices producing poverty and its destructive habits.
What does God say will be the destruction of the poor? Proverbs 10:15 says, “The rich man's wealth is his strong city: the destruction of the poor is their poverty.” The Bible here is giving us a warning, showing us what the result of poverty is.
Poverty is not piety. Wealth is not wickedness. Business is not bad. We get these ideas from the Catholic Church, from the Dark Ages. These are not Bible concepts, these are Bible confusions.
When I realized that there was a reason why people were poor, I thought to myself, "What? Why didn't I know there were financial laws this entire time? I want to understand! What are these financial laws?
I'm poor, but the Word of God says there's a reason? Let me go search that out. Let me go study the financial laws that govern my results. Let me harmonize my life with God's laws.”
Any financial law you don't understand or are not using is being used against you by someone who does understand and is using it. So it's in your best favor to not allow money to master you. Instead, become a master of your money. (See Matthew 6:24)
Recognize the laws of finances bleed over into and influence every other area of your life. How we use our finances will influence the decisions we make. Having a poverty mindset financially will bleed into a poverty mindset with your relationships, your spouse, your friends, and your relationship with God.
When you have an abundant and wealthy mindset, a possibility mindset, it not only affects your finances, but it also affects your friendships, your fitness, your faith, and all other areas of life.
Proverbs 28:19 says, “He that followeth vain persons shall have poverty enough.” What does that mean to be a vain person? Proverbs 12:11 sheds some light: “He that tilleth his land shall be satisfied with bread.” In the same context, it says, “but he that followeth vain persons is void of understanding.” In other words, a vain person is void of understanding.
It boggles my mind how poor people only accept financial advice from people as poor as they are or poorer. Basically, poor people only follow advice from people who are just as “void of understanding” of financial laws as they are. On the other hand, wealthy people only take financial advice from people as rich as them or richer.
Be careful of the advice you accept because the greatest cost of your life is the cost of ignorance. Contrary to popular belief, ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance is expensive. God says, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” (Hosea 4:6)
King Solomon says “Poverty and shame shall be to him that refuseth instruction.” (Proverbs 13:18)
It’s not that the poor here couldn’t have knowledge. It’s that they refused to have it. Poverty often comes as a result of refusing instruction. One of the practices producing poverty is trying to figure everything out on your own and without a mentor.
Ignorance is costing you a fortune.
Sometimes we have to disassociate with some of the beliefs, ideas, concepts, advice, and even people and go to the Word of God instead.
Sometimes it's best to entirely disassociate from certain people.
Once you disassociate from people who are limiting you, you’ve got to find different people to associate with. If you want to learn how to surround yourself with peers and mentors who will challenge and encourage you to grow, develop, and think bigger, then grab a free copy of my book "I Want a Mentor… Now What Do I Do?" at IWantaMentorBook.com.
An entrepreneur since he was 10 years old, and being fascinated with internet marketing since he was 12, Enoch now teaches authors, coaches, speakers, and other high-level entrepreneurs how to get paid a premium for their advice by helping them to create premium mentorship programs.
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